This month I’ve had a lot to think about. Milestones that some people experience within years, I’ve experienced in the last few months.
Which has got me thinking about the things that are actually important in life, and the true meaning of love.
Love can be mistaken for cuddles and flowers, date nights and romance, kisses and moments of passion.
But passion alone is not love.
All love is, is the total gift of yourself to others, and when you give yourself fully to others, it’s not always easy or comfortable or even what you necessarily want.
In today’s world the focus is to force love into our own agendas, our own wants, and our own needs. We sometimes do acts, some even noble in nature, for the love of ourselves and what we think we are capable of, to look a certain way, and not out of love for God.
So is it bad to love yourself then? Absolutely not, but when we put ourselves above the will of God then we are ONLY loving ourselves and truly not loving others. Love becomes self-centered, something that is never uncomfortable or challenging.
We then sit in a lukewarm pool bathing in how great we are, and essentially, never get out and grow.
Growing only comes from opening up ourselves to the will of God, and giving of ourselves fully in His love.
Which got me thinking…if love is a total self-gift, then who am I giving to?
|Kissing the face of God by Morgan Weistling|
I am giving to my husband when I take the time to do the laundry completely, and make sure his shirts are pressed and his socks are folded, even though I HATE folding socks.
I am giving to my family when I make the beds but would rather read a book.
I am giving to my son when I spend an extra 10 minutes truly listening to him and playing with him even when I’m completely exhausted.
I am giving to my grandparents when I listen to their often repeated stories with love and sincerity in my heart.
I am giving to Christ in all of these things, because “When you do it unto the least of my brothers, you do it to me.”
These are the little things, where we can seek holiness in the everyday and ordinary life.
I am in no way tooting my own horn, but more so am sharing a revelation I’ve just had about the beauty and nature of true love. I’ve done most of these things kicking and screaming along the way. Although finally I am finding the most profound and fulfilling love in the smallest of things, and only when I give of myself with an open heart to the will of God.
When we give of ourselves in all things, it is only then that we find true love! This IS the love written about in fairytales, a love that lasts not only to the end of our days, but for eternity. Doesn’t get much better than that.
It is giving of ourselves that we receive. And what do we receive? The love of God Himself. Again, doesn’t get much better than that.